I read a very interesting blog post recently. That post was “I’m Still Here” by over on YA Highway. Daud makes a lot of good points in this post. About the issues of using your privilege to take over a discussion, for example.
However, she makes a key point in the post which I have to disagree with. Particularly: “But here’s the thing: your opinion doesn’t actually matter.” Please do click the link and read the entire post before you jump to judgement, or even conclusion. Context is important.
But, even with that context in mind, I don’t agree with this argument. Your opinion does matter. What you have to be careful of, though, is that, because of historical issues that Daud explains in depth, the opinion of someone on the privileged side of a privilege debate is often taken more seriously than the opinion of someone on the other side. That is definitely something that should be avoided if possible.
One of the supporting points Daud makes in her post is the issue of how the same conversation happens over and over again, and how that is evidence of people not listening. But that’s not an issue of listening, and it’s not specific to discussions of privilege. Neither side of the debate is a cultural monolith. New people are constantly entering the conversation on both sides. Constantly. The same way they are in any conversation. They weren’t there the last time. They may have read the transcripts, if such exist.
But there’s a reason small group discussion is so common in schools. That’s how people think and learn, by talking it out. Until we get to the point where diversity is the default, there will always be more people to convince. So yes, maybe you have just clicked with something that others have been discussing for ages. That’s not called privilege, or not listening, or over-eagerness. That’s called being new to the discussion. Perhaps even relatively new to the planet Earth and life itself. There’s a common saying in the writing community that every story under the sun has been told and retold a thousand times. There’s a reason we get that repetition. I still agree with Daud that new voices, especially privileged ones, should not be engaging in hostile, or even relative peaceful, take-overs of the conversation. But to say that those new voices don’t count at all? I can’t go along with that.
The following paragraph, on only talking to the privileged groups who control the structure of, in this case, publishing makes some good points, but I don’t think the transition to that from “your voice doesn’t matter” is quite so smooth as implied by Daud’s post. That aside, I absolutely agree with the conclusion of the entire post: that rather than children or helpless invalids, minorities in publishing (and all other spheres) should be thought of as equals who are in fact driving the conversation.
Rather than muddying up that discussion, the people who are privileged on this issue should be having their own private rooms for private discussion, always remembering that those are side conversations, and that the real discussion is being arbitrated by the groups who actually have to deal with the unfair treatment, consideration, and lack of representation. Your voice and your opinion are important, but they should be adding to the discussion, not taking space away from minority and under-privileged voices. As a privileged person in any discussion, that’s a responsibility you must always keep in mind.